You Asked: How Do You Get Over the Loss of Not Having the Perfect Family?

One single mom asked:  How do you get over the loss of not having that perfect family?  It’s not what we dreamed of as little girls.  When we thought of the ideal family situation—our perfect future family—we imagined things so differently. Parents who were deeply in love. Children who were happy and respectful. A home… Continue reading You Asked: How Do You Get Over the Loss of Not Having the Perfect Family?

You Stated: There are No Good Men Left. What’s the Point of Trying?

One single mom stated:  “There are no good men left. What’s the point of trying?”  Sometimes, the biggest enemy we fight is ourselves.  Self-doubt can do a number on our lives, can’t it? It can hold us down and keep us in bad situations for far too long. It can keep us from being able… Continue reading You Stated: There are No Good Men Left. What’s the Point of Trying?

You Asked: How Do I Find a Good Christian Man?

One single mom asked:  “How do I find a good Christian man?”  Single moms are more than just single moms.  At our core, we’re simply women, right? With the same desires to be loved, to be known, and to be in a loving marriage with someone who walks through life alongside of us. Just like… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Find a Good Christian Man?

You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

One single mom said: “He badmouths me to the kids. I just can’t take it anymore!”  When we set out on this single mom path, I would bet the vast majority of us do so with all intentions of being respectful of our ex for our children’s sake. Maybe we make a promise to ourselves not to… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

One single mom asked:  “ . . . I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in by something my ex does (or most likely, doesn’t do) and I feel like I take several steps back.”  After the hard work it takes to reach agreements with your ex, it’s discouraging to face repeated disappointment… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

One single mom asks:  “How do I heal when I still have to deal with my toxic ex?  I am going to counseling, I have a single moms group we are starting at church this fall, etc. I am not really sure what healing looks like. I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

You Asked: Single Motherhood and Loneliness

One single mom writes:  “I’ve been a single mom for almost 9 years and it’s lonely.  I’m used to doing it all by myself as I don’t get child support. Just lonely . . .”  Every single mom on the planet can relate to feelings of loneliness. Am I right? Intimate bonds with other people… Continue reading You Asked: Single Motherhood and Loneliness

This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

Once, I had a dream. Of finding love, and getting married, and having a family.  Of cooking meals in a kitchen full of children, and building traditions, and holding hands through the hard times. Of growing old together, and enjoying grandchildren, and kissing each other goodbye as we left this world for something better.  A… Continue reading This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

Single Mom: Should You Lose that Loving Feeling?

Being alone can be one the most difficult things we face as single parents. For those who were previously married, the shock of being alone is often made worse by the unforeseen aftershocks of loneliness that sneak upon us and pounce when we least expect it. And while those of us with children in our… Continue reading Single Mom: Should You Lose that Loving Feeling?