You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

One single mom asks:  “How do I heal when I still have to deal with my toxic ex?  I am going to counseling, I have a single moms group we are starting at church this fall, etc. I am not really sure what healing looks like. I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

You Asked: Single Motherhood and Loneliness

One single mom writes:  “I’ve been a single mom for almost 9 years and it’s lonely.  I’m used to doing it all by myself as I don’t get child support. Just lonely . . .”  Every single mom on the planet can relate to feelings of loneliness. Am I right? Intimate bonds with other people… Continue reading You Asked: Single Motherhood and Loneliness

This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

Once, I had a dream. Of finding love, and getting married, and having a family.  Of cooking meals in a kitchen full of children, and building traditions, and holding hands through the hard times. Of growing old together, and enjoying grandchildren, and kissing each other goodbye as we left this world for something better.  A… Continue reading This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

Single Mom: Should You Lose that Loving Feeling?

Being alone can be one the most difficult things we face as single parents. For those who were previously married, the shock of being alone is often made worse by the unforeseen aftershocks of loneliness that sneak upon us and pounce when we least expect it. And while those of us with children in our… Continue reading Single Mom: Should You Lose that Loving Feeling?

Dear Single Parent: It’s Not About You

When I became a single parent, advice from outsiders seem to flow like water.  “It’s your chance to start over.”  “Don’t worry. Children are resilient. They’ll be fine.”  “You won’t be single long.”  “Use this time to have some fun.”  And while all of the comments were meant for good, and at the root, the people saying… Continue reading Dear Single Parent: It’s Not About You