You Asked: How do You Show (and Feel) Forgiveness for an Ex Who Shows No Remorse?

There’s no doubt about it: forgiveness is hard.  When we are placed in the difficult predicament of forgiving someone who not only isn’t sorry for what they’ve done, but continues to stir up strife in our lives—it can feel infinitely harder.  One of the most challenging things is seeing your ex for who they have become, not… Continue reading You Asked: How do You Show (and Feel) Forgiveness for an Ex Who Shows No Remorse?

You Asked: How Do I Co-Parent with an Ex Who Manipulates My Children?

One single mom asked:  “How do I co-parent with my abusive ex, who manipulates my 10 and 12 year old?“  There’s something sinister that often happens when a marriage ends.  One or both parties recognizes their loss of control over the other person and begins to attempt to regain that control—many of you are living with this—through manipulating… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Co-Parent with an Ex Who Manipulates My Children?

You Asked: How Do I Deal with an Ex Who Still Tries to Control Me?

One single mom asked:  “How do I deal with a controlling ex who continues to abuse me mentally and tries to control me even though we’ve been split up over 6 years?”  I’m starting a movement. And this is our mantra:  We can’t control people. We can only control ourselves.  It’s one of the hardest… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Deal with an Ex Who Still Tries to Control Me?

You Asked: How Do You Get Over the Loss of Not Having the Perfect Family?

One single mom asked:  How do you get over the loss of not having that perfect family?  It’s not what we dreamed of as little girls.  When we thought of the ideal family situation—our perfect future family—we imagined things so differently. Parents who were deeply in love. Children who were happy and respectful. A home… Continue reading You Asked: How Do You Get Over the Loss of Not Having the Perfect Family?

You Stated: There are No Good Men Left. What’s the Point of Trying?

One single mom stated:  “There are no good men left. What’s the point of trying?”  Sometimes, the biggest enemy we fight is ourselves.  Self-doubt can do a number on our lives, can’t it? It can hold us down and keep us in bad situations for far too long. It can keep us from being able… Continue reading You Stated: There are No Good Men Left. What’s the Point of Trying?

You Asked: How Do I Find a Good Christian Man?

One single mom asked:  “How do I find a good Christian man?”  Single moms are more than just single moms.  At our core, we’re simply women, right? With the same desires to be loved, to be known, and to be in a loving marriage with someone who walks through life alongside of us. Just like… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Find a Good Christian Man?

You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

One single mom said: “He badmouths me to the kids. I just can’t take it anymore!”  When we set out on this single mom path, I would bet the vast majority of us do so with all intentions of being respectful of our ex for our children’s sake. Maybe we make a promise to ourselves not to… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

One single mom asked:  “ . . . I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in by something my ex does (or most likely, doesn’t do) and I feel like I take several steps back.”  After the hard work it takes to reach agreements with your ex, it’s discouraging to face repeated disappointment… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

One single mom asks:  “How do I heal when I still have to deal with my toxic ex?  I am going to counseling, I have a single moms group we are starting at church this fall, etc. I am not really sure what healing looks like. I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?