You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

One single mom said: “He badmouths me to the kids. I just can’t take it anymore!”  When we set out on this single mom path, I would bet the vast majority of us do so with all intentions of being respectful of our ex for our children’s sake. Maybe we make a promise to ourselves not to… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Handle My Ex Badmouthing Me to My Kids?

You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

One single mom asked:  “ . . . I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in by something my ex does (or most likely, doesn’t do) and I feel like I take several steps back.”  After the hard work it takes to reach agreements with your ex, it’s discouraging to face repeated disappointment… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?

You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

One single mom asks:  “How do I heal when I still have to deal with my toxic ex?  I am going to counseling, I have a single moms group we are starting at church this fall, etc. I am not really sure what healing looks like. I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?

This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

Once, I had a dream. Of finding love, and getting married, and having a family.  Of cooking meals in a kitchen full of children, and building traditions, and holding hands through the hard times. Of growing old together, and enjoying grandchildren, and kissing each other goodbye as we left this world for something better.  A… Continue reading This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype

You asked: What part did I play in the breakup of my marriage?

One single mom I spoke with last week asked me to clarify statements I’d made in the past about the “part” we play in the breakup of our marriage:  “I never knew anything was even going on. I was a good wife. But I know I’m not perfect. What part did I play?”  Sometimes people… Continue reading You asked: What part did I play in the breakup of my marriage?