Dear Brave One, I know it’s confusing at times how someone you so wanted to admire and be able to be like in life has fallen so short of what you hoped. You longed for a strong father that others spoke highly of, that spent time with you, which others respected—so that you could learn from them… Continue reading To the Son Whose Father Won’t Love Him
Forgiveness is one of those elusive things in the faith that causes us to pause. We know that we are called to forgive. For some offenses, it seems fairly easy and understandable. But for others (and especially with people who show no remorse), it can feel impossible. But, the more I learn about and gain experience with forgiveness, the… Continue reading 6 Ways to Get Your Mind Around Forgiveness
It’s an unfortunate truth in society today: half of all children will go through the break-up of their family, and their parent’s divorce. Though it’s obviously not God’s ideal, it does happen, and needs to be approached with grace from those on the outside, as well as those on the inside. One of the biggest mistakes… Continue reading How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce
One single mom asked: “How do I co-parent with my abusive ex, who manipulates my 10 and 12 year old?“ There’s something sinister that often happens when a marriage ends. One or both parties recognizes their loss of control over the other person and begins to attempt to regain that control—many of you are living with this—through manipulating… Continue reading You Asked: How Do I Co-Parent with an Ex Who Manipulates My Children?
One single mom asked: “My biggest question is why this journey? Why a single mom? Why is it so hard? There is no light at the end of the tunnel, one problem is solved and then a few more spring up. There is no Mr. Right in sight, around the corner, not even around the… Continue reading You Asked: Why Me? Why This Journey?
One single mom asked: “ . . . I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in by something my ex does (or most likely, doesn’t do) and I feel like I take several steps back.” After the hard work it takes to reach agreements with your ex, it’s discouraging to face repeated disappointment… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Avoid Getting Sucked in by Things My Ex Does (or Doesn’t Do)?
One single mom asks: “How do I heal when I still have to deal with my toxic ex? I am going to counseling, I have a single moms group we are starting at church this fall, etc. I am not really sure what healing looks like. I think I am doing well and then BAM, I am sucked in… Continue reading You Asked: How do I Heal When I Still Have to Deal with My Toxic Ex?
Once, I had a dream. Of finding love, and getting married, and having a family. Of cooking meals in a kitchen full of children, and building traditions, and holding hands through the hard times. Of growing old together, and enjoying grandchildren, and kissing each other goodbye as we left this world for something better. A… Continue reading This Is Me: A Single Mom Sterotype
When I became a single parent, advice from outsiders seem to flow like water. “It’s your chance to start over.” “Don’t worry. Children are resilient. They’ll be fine.” “You won’t be single long.” “Use this time to have some fun.” And while all of the comments were meant for good, and at the root, the people saying… Continue reading Dear Single Parent: It’s Not About You