I google everything.
I once convinced myself that a pimple on my arm was MRSA. I literally contacted someone close to me and told them that if they didn’t hear from me in the next 24 hours, I was probably dead.
Obviously, the internet has its good points and bad points. But usually, it’s what we make of it.
When I became a single mom, I was so desperate for knowledge on how to do it. I spent the first weeks searching for blogs that encouraged, or offered advice, or simply commiserated with me on being a Christian walking this path. Most of what I found from Christian circles was either outdated, or took a pious viewpoint that made me feel infinitely worse.
I just wanted a friend who understood, you know? A woman like me who stepped into a small puddle only to discover herself up to her neck in water. In grief. In anger. In fear. In disbelief.
I just couldn’t find anything that spoke to me. Or maybe, it was just that I couldn’t find anything that spoke to me in the way I needed it to. I’m not the kind of girl that quotes Bible verses for every moment of my life—it doesn’t feel honest to me for some reason (maybe because I didn’t grow up in the church or around people who did that well). I’m not the kind of girl that tip-toes around the issues I really want to understand—I need down and dirty answers, people.
I’m just the kind of girl who loves Jesus with all my heart. Who spent years researching my faith. Who spent years honing my writing skills to be able to tell others about Him. And who then found myself feeling as if I’d just been kicked in the gut—and somehow alone without Him.
Of course, I wasn’t. But, you couldn’t have convinced me of that at times. And so I wrote. A lot.
It’s how I make sense of the world. It’s how I made sense of my grief.
And it’s how I wanted to help others who came behind me on this path and maybe felt as lost and alone on it as I did.
The result is, The Single Mom Challenge.
It’s a book about preparing your heart and mind to heal so that you can move forward toward what God has in store for you. It’s about rebuilding. Taking the steps you need to get going. It’s my version of cheering you on. Of turning back toward you, from just one step ahead, and offering my hand to pull you further along the path.
But, it’s not something I wrote alone. Each of you was in the forefront of my mind. I’ve been listening to you for the last four years. I’ve been touched by your stories. Floored by your courage. And inspired by the words you’ve shared with me through the groups and surveys I’ve done on The Christian Single Mom Facebook page.
My single goal with writing it is to encourage. To encourage other moms who found themselves unexpectedly single during their faith journey. Just like I did.
It’s not the first book I’ve written. I’ve got a couple of novels under my belt. But, it’s a book that I deeply want to help others through. I pray that it does. I pray that God will use it for His glory. That He will get it into the hands of those who need it. That it will point others on this path who are wavering in their faith, directly back to Him.
It’s the only reason I write anything, to be honest.
If you are struggling in the newness of single motherhood, or if you are still stuck in old patterns after years of being in it, I pray that you will find a renewing through this book. A renewing of your faith. A renewing of your family. A renewing of your vision for your future.
Here’s a sneak peek of the cover. (Okay, I’m getting excited now—no one’s seen it yet!)
It will release next week (on Tuesday–woot!). Will you stand in prayer with me that all who need to be encouraged by it will find it? Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of you. You’ve encouraged me more than you know, and have played a huge part in getting this out to the world.
Hugs and high-fives all around,